Being real is hard work.
Having chosen a life in ministry by marrying my minister husband right out of college, I have struggled with being real my entire adult life. It's tough. Where do I draw the line with complete and total honesty, manners begone, or polite mannerly lying and sweetness and light?
I don't want to be that woman, the one no one wants to talk to because simply asking "how are you" garners you a litany of woes.
I don't want to be the fake "perfect pastor's wife Pattie" anymore, either (thankfully, my husband's ministry has changed, and the chapel is kinder to its chaplain's wives than some small churches have been with their single-staff-pastor's wives).
So what is the answer? The real answer?
I'm still learning. Trying to be real in the meantime, honest about my struggles without being too detailed, learning to listen, gauging the atmosphere and the situation, and mostly just doing the best that I can.