Please don't say it

October 8

I read a lot of military spouse information online, so oftentimes I'm not sure what content makes it out of the mil-spouse bubble and what doesn't. But one of the least helpful things I've ever heard or read is this:

You chose this life. You knew what you were getting into when you married a __________ {soldier/sailor/airman/marine/coast guard/reservist/guard member}.

Friends, this is not helpful. At all. Because there are many of us who did not marry a military service member. Then there are others of us who got married with stars in our eyes and love in our hearts, and we didn't have any clue what was in our futures.

Just like everyone else.

So the next time you hear a military wife friend express frustration over something with her husband's job, or worries aloud about whether or not her husband's next paycheck will be coming, extend to her a bit of grace. Don't say that least helpful thing; instead, offer to pray with her about her concerns.

Proverbs 16:9 says, "In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps."

We may not know what tomorrow holds, but we know Who holds tomorrow.


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